tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17929252.post984118110212405658..comments2024-03-25T20:45:09.957+05:30Comments on On The Ganga Mail: ParentsBishwanath Ghoshhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09499834715638337891noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17929252.post-49687336137582873062009-05-12T21:50:00.000+05:302009-05-12T21:50:00.000+05:30I am not too excited with this article. I want to ...I am not too excited with this article. I want to know how many of you here including the author have made any property or even a simple deposit in their parents' name after marriage. I think its ludicrous to think that a man after marriage will not put things in his wife and children;s name. no one expects to die soon and dont you think the wife had dreams and aspirations when she married him and all that shattered for no fault of hers and I especially am flabbergasted with your subtle suggestion that she may have known the guy she married again, before her husband died. that is an irresponsible statement. <br />You never know when you fall in love or find the right person and there is necessity too. also we dont know how good a husband he was, remember your good friend does not necessarily mean a good husband. so why dont you cast some aspersions on the dead man and not just the widow.<br />There are guys living hale and healthy and dont do a damn thing for their parents and you are talking of dead man and his widow.<br /><br />Its pure bad luck for the man, his wife, child and parents. so as sad as it is they have to deal with it.<br /><br />I think we should be happy that she is able to find another life and as regards to parents I dont think they would have had much help even if he was alive. I think you first obligation is to your wife and children and we should not rear our children hoping of some return. its an unconditional love, between parents and children. <br />difficult issue, but I could see the male chavunism in this article,<br />I bet no one would point any fingers to a man if his wife died and he doesnt do a thing to help his inlaws, now does he??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17929252.post-47817464909936213962009-05-10T20:10:00.000+05:302009-05-10T20:10:00.000+05:30OUCH !!!OUCH !!!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05284805322597542934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17929252.post-29442500156679107662009-05-10T11:22:00.000+05:302009-05-10T11:22:00.000+05:30I am not so sure if that is such a good question. ...I am not so sure if that is such a good question. I can clearly see why people are more sympathetic toward the wife. The parents, even though they raise and struggle so much for their kids, their responsibility is over once they get them married. They find joy in spending time with their grandchildren and seeing their son or daughter visit them once in a few months; their lives are all settled. On the other hand, the wife has a whole life ahead of her that she has to deal with all by herself. It's true that women these days are earning well and what not, but is financial support the only necessity for the wife? Every moment is a burden for her as she has to do a two-person job just by herself her entire life. While the main thing that the parents have to deal with due to the loss is grief, the wife has million other things to worry about in addition to the grief. Of course, I am talking about the loyal ones, not the kind you mentioned in your post. Anyways, your posts are always interesting!Pennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17929252.post-55465330561005898712009-05-09T23:58:00.000+05:302009-05-09T23:58:00.000+05:30Pathetic.. You sure he wasn't poisoned!!
When a ...Pathetic.. You sure he wasn't poisoned!! <br /><br />When a woman remarries, she loses all rights on the first marriage. <br /><br />Haven't men heard of a thing called 'WILL'? They should set aside money for their parents too..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17929252.post-76703093846766821842009-05-09T19:14:00.000+05:302009-05-09T19:14:00.000+05:30This post really made me cry.... I don't think the...This post really made me cry.... I don't think there can be any straight answer for this question...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17929252.post-38547975555472433062009-05-09T15:20:00.000+05:302009-05-09T15:20:00.000+05:30Very emotional issue Bish, but there are no answer...Very emotional issue Bish, but there are no answers. AKs wife is one kind. I know a lady with children in their teens who is struggling to find her feet and a job after her husband's death. He was an only son, as we say. <br />Here, who should get the benefits? Don't forget the children from such a marriage as well.<br />We have moved to such a pass that old people are being forgotten, and that is sad. The monies are only one part of the issue - I would imagine AK's parents would want to keep in touch with their grandchild.Sandhyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07724374630193683488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17929252.post-50521311103422378132009-05-09T14:13:00.000+05:302009-05-09T14:13:00.000+05:30This is really a HUGE issue.
Especially so for th...This is really a HUGE issue.<br /><br />Especially so for the not-so-well-to-do. <br /><br />You talk about your Ad agency friend and his obviously well-heeled colleague, but the problem is far more critical in the case of the defence personnel and para-military jawans whose pensions and terminal benefits are contested both by the parents and the widows (not to forget that there are other complications at times of numerous women representing themselves as 'the widow'). <br /><br />Society too is is split on this - there are those groups who would castigate the widow as the 'husband-killer' (khasmanukhaaniye, as popularised by that sick SRK song) or treat the parents as the pariahs, while according all social respect and monetary dues to the widow and her children. <br /><br />Not an easy or pretty issue to deal with.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com